Okay, so jerks are, well… jerks. So then why do girls fall for them? Jen Kim, a former Psychology Today intern and a graduate of Northwestern University, has trouble believing that she really likes jerks. All of these are arguably good reasons for why girls like jerks, but do all girls really like jerks? Heidi Muller, who writes for Ask Men, reinforces the idea that girls with low self-esteem like jerks.
She adds that these jerks fake confidence to cover up their own lack of self-esteem. What I think should be added to this long list of possible answers is this: girls love anyone who makes them feel special. And really, many of the points already discussed reinforce this statement. Girls attribute value to jerks because of how many women he can get, and has had.
Peter Jonason, Ph. But when a jerk decides to be nice to her occasionally or often , then she feels special for being treated differently.
The term "jerk" is pretty broad, so you might hear it a lot. For instance, someone might say, "My boyfriend never washes the dishes. What a jerk. Be that as it may, let's explore why some girls actually prefer the latter. A recent study suggests [JB1] [JB2] that women show increased desirability for jerks when they're looking for casual sex with no strings attached. In other words, when it comes to a long-term commitment, nice guys finish first.
If you're a younger guy and you're not sure why some women aren't interested in you, this might be the reason. These women may not be looking for a serious relationship right now. Chiseled good looks are subconsciously associated with jerks, meaning women tend to favor these characteristics over submissive traits in times of heightened sexual drive. It might seem odd, but that's because it is. Our bodies are so complex when it comes to hormones and our genetic make-up that we have a difficult time processing the way we feel about certain things and people.
This doesn't mean that every woman on the planet is a sucker for chiseled cheeks and a sharp jawline, but there might be times when they prefer the jerk over the nice guy. Source: pexels. Chasing and claiming a "bad boy" delivers a confidence boost that many women desire. Guys who act like jerks typically don't fall head-over-heels for women. Instead, these guys prefer the old "hard-to-get" strategy because it makes them appear less vulnerable.
Even though these men won't give women the time and attention they often want, some women still crave acceptance from a jerk. Now, if you're a guy reading this and you're wondering why this makes no sense, we can't say we blame you. However, it's true that some women enjoy the challenge of pursuing a guy who doesn't seem to be interested in them because it creates a sense of tension that often leads to intense feelings of desire.
However, it's important to note that these dynamics don't create the foundation for a healthy relationship.
If you're a guy reading this article, you might feel a bit frustrated, especially if you're not a jerk in which case, we applaud you.
That is completely understandable, and there's also hope. As mentioned previously, evidence shows that, later on in life, women value kindness in potential partners when they're ready to create a fulfilling, long-term relationship. Some girls like jerks because they believe they'll be the ones to change the jerk's behavior for the better. When these women see a guy who appears angry and disrespectful, they want to change this man into a more passionate, caring person.
Unfortunately, this is rarely possible because most people won't change unless they actually want to change. Nonetheless, some women find themselves attracted to the "bad boy" personality for this reason. This can also explain why some women stay in toxic relationships. Somewhere deep down, they hold on to hope that their significant other will change one day.
They wound up back at her apartment, kissing. They were moving toward sex, but then he stopped. Finally, he picked one up and started groping it. She told him. She was too high-maintenance for him. She was out of his league. He sighed. And just like that, the mood was roadkill. This is another set of lies society dumps on us, that makes it harder for us to have meaningful relationships. Once a woman has her confidence, she needs to start building up the confidence of her partner.
We assume men just have confidence. Their confidence is often based on extrinsic qualities like how much they paid for their watch. Some guys have even confessed to me that they find it difficult to date women who disagree with them, hold advanced degrees, or make them second guess their own intelligence. Some men even find it difficult to have female friends or colleagues who are attractive, but also more successful than them.
I always wonder. Society leads them to believe they have to be Elon Musk, Clint Eastwood, and Brad Pitt wrapped up in one deluxe bundle. They go almost as nuts as women do trying to live up to ridiculous expectations. Or they think they have to knock women down a peg and berate them to stand a chance. This would be a good start. Sign in. Felicia C. Jessica Wildfire Follow.
Society tears women and men down all the time. The answer is simple: Women fall for jerks because they have low self-esteem. Women have to develop super confidence. Self-esteem makes for good dating material. I Love You Relationships now. I Love You Follow. Written by Jessica Wildfire Follow. More From Medium. Brandon Bell. Why Do We Miss People? Eula Teves. Zulie Rane. Scott Muska in P.
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